Why geeks and nerds are worth it.

In the wide world of dating, there are many options. Do you go for the flashy guy with the smooth smile, or the dude in the corner typing away on his laptop? The following are reasons why I think my fellow females should pay more attention to the quiet geeks and nerds, and less attention to the flashy boys.

1.) While geeks and nerds may be awkward, they’re well-meaning 9 out of 10 times. That smooth dude with the sly grin and the spider hands? Wonder what HIS intentions are... plus, I’ve never had a geek guy not call me when he said he would. Score major points THERE.

2.) They’re useful. In this tech-savvy world, it’s great to have a b/f who can make your laptop, desktop, and just about anything else that plugs into a wall behave itself.

3.) They’re more romantic than they’re given credit for. Ok true, their idea of romance might be to make up a spiffy web-page with all the reasons why they love you, with links to pics of you and sonnets and such... but hey. It lasts longer than flowers, plus you can show your friends.

4.) Due to their neglected status, there are plenty to choose from. You like ‘em tall and slender? There are plenty of geeks/nerds who are. You like ‘em smaller with more meat on their bones? Got that too.

5.) They’ve got brains. Come on now, how can intelligence be a bad thing?

6.) Most are quite good at remembering dates. Like birthdates and such, especially if they know it’ll make you happy. Due again to their neglected status, they’re more attentive than guys who “have more options”. Plus, with all that down time without a steady girlfriend, they’ll likely have mental lists of all the things they’d love to do once they GOT a girlfriend.

7.) Sex. Yep. Sex. I’m not really familiar with this myself, but I’ve friends who’ve been intimate with geek guys and it’s raves all around. They say a virgin wrote the Kama Sutra... all that time thinking about sex, imagining sex, dreaming about sex, (they are male after all) coupled with a desire to make you happy? Use your imagination.

8.) They’re relatively low-maintenance. Most can be fueled on pizza, Twinkies and Mt Dew. No complicated dinners needed here, so if you’re not the best cook, eh. Can you order a pizza?

9.) Most frequent bars as often as slugs frequent salt mines. You won’t have to worry much about your geek guy getting his “groove” on with club hotties because, frankly, he’ll be too busy rooting around under his computer wondering where that spare cable went. You won’t have to worry about him flirting with other women because, 9 out of 10 times, he’ll zip right by them in a perfect b-line towards the nearest electronics store. I’ve seen this happen.
Me: “Eww. Victoria Secret’s Models... They’re so skinny. How is that feminine? You can see her ribs!”
Geek Guy: “ooooooo...”
Me: “Hey!” *notices he is staring lustfully towards the computer store*
Geek Guy: “What?”
Me: “Never mind...”

10.) Although he may not want to go to every outing with you, you can arrange swaps, as in, you’ll go to his Gamer Con dressed as an elf princess if he’ll take you to the ballet. Plus, if he doesn’t want to go someplace with you, you won’t have to worry much about what he’s up to. You’ll probably come home to find him asleep on his keyboard in a sea of Mt. Dew cans with code blinking from the screen. It’s ok. He’s used to this. Just toss a blanket over him and turn out the light.

11.) His friends aren’t jerks. I can’t stress this enough. You’ll more likely get “Omg! A GIRL!! Can I see?!” than “Hey hot stuff back that ass up here and let me get some grub on...” They’re awkward geeks too and will, 9 times out of 10, treat you with the utmost respect and, more than likely, a note of awe. A cute girl picked one of their clan to date? It could happen to them! Hope! Drag some of your single girlfriends over, open up a pack of Mt. Dew, crack open the DnD set and get working. Nothing impresses geek guys more than a girl who can hack-n-slash (well ok maybe if she can code... a geek can dream).

12.) They’re rarely if ever possessive. They trust you, so you can be yourself around them. You like to walk around the house in a ratty t-shirt for comfort? He won’t care. He does too! They won’t get pissy if you don’t wear make-up or don’t want to bother primping your hair. If you gain a few pounds, they won’t try their best to make you feel like crap.

13.) They’re usually very well educated. Physics majors and the like. See #5. You won’t have to listen to him blathering on about his car (ok maybe a little), he’ll have loads of other interesting things to talk about. Politics, world events, how much the chicken burgers down at the local place rock, so long as you douse them in hot sauce...

14.) You’ll almost never have to hear, “Yaw dawg whazzap!!” plop out of their mouths. Unless it’s in jest. They spell properly, use correct punctuation, and are able to tell the difference between the toilet and the floor. They almost never get “wasted”, so you won’t have to worry about coming home to find him and his friends passed out on the floor amidst a pile of beer bottles. Mt. Dew cans, perhaps...

15.) And the final reason why geeks and nerds make great boyfriends: They actually give a damn about you. Not how you look (though that’s a plus), not how skinny you are, not how much make-up you primp yourself up with, but they like you for you. That kind of thing lasts longer than “DaMN baby you got a fine ass!!!” Believe me.

LOL! Good read, just what I needed to hear.

humm... maybe they are for the long haul but the ladies also enjoy flirting with danger by going after the bad boys. It is a game to try to 'tame' them

So I can get me one of those where again? Best Buy? Sweet! lol

It's possible to be a Bad-Boy Geek. I am most certainly the nerdy Black sheep of my family, but I am also never at want for a date because of my social skills. Granted I've been with GothGIrl for almost 4 Years now, but that's beside the point.

I chose early on that all the qualities that I had in the first post (thank you zimes, btw) were what made me a good catch, and after the awkwardness of high school, i said "To hell with this irritating standard." Bam! I get more choice, but it is equally hard to find a good lady! Interested in these same things, understanding of the language. {sigh} It's a hard road for many, what with the perceived inability to approach women and the lack of having an intruder amongst them.

Some guys think that it's all handbags and shoes. Some girls are. But not all of them. A lot of times the best thing you can do is plop on down next to the girl reading a book and don't say a word. More than likely, she can feel the same tension and you can build off that.

It would be nice also if, in these gender challenging times, if the ladies would take the lead. Most nerdy guys aren't going to be an Alpha kinda guy, so sometimes you have to take charge and be the woman. Don't treat men like children tho. Some nerds have complexes too.

So in summation, it's a rough search for the perfect mate, but you get more choice with the guys who know more than one giant Japanese robot.

Unless you are in japan that is.

Eh I'm to shy to make the first move. But i see where you're coming from neuro.

PS
Congrats on 4 years ^_^

i <3 nerds! lol

Don't congratulate me just yet, still a long road ahead.

People think that talking to chicks is a big deal but it isn't. The trick is to be cocky and funny at the same time. If you do that you'll get the girl more than if you start with a pickup line or start talking about your video game collection.

I got a man that is whole kitten kaboodle. Hes the tough guy when he needs to be. He's the romantic when i need him to be. He's a nerd who loves to read the news and other stuff. He's the most intelligent man I've ever met. He's a genious. And that's the truth. I love him more than anything. I get the most pleasure when I'm the most submissive. Always submissive. Anything he wants. I'm not bragging. It's just who i am.

I've been able to win my special lady's heart by just being myself. Thankfully, she's as big a nerd as me . However, the big challenge is keeping someone around, but you know how to do it easily? Be a gentleman! There is nothing people love more than to be treated with kindness, and get kindness in return, and being raised as a Southern gentleman, it comes naturally to me. I don't care who you are, but there is nobody out there who truly hates being treated like a king or queen! Chivalry appears to be dead, but it really shouldn't be .